Friday, June 4, 2010

Why the "Really?" abuse?

You know how some solitary words become a celebrity in our culture for a time?

For example:

"I loved that movie! ... Not!" "The guy at the store was nice...Not!" "My dinner was awesome...Not!"

Remember a time when there was a new catchy way to make a point to replace the outdated catchy ways. Here are the more updated versions of the above.

For example:

"We got a babysitter, paid for a movie, went through all the effort to see a great movie and then xyz happened...Really?"

"We were at the store and we're next in line when this guy comes up and just cuts right in front of us and puts his stuff on the counter!... I mean, Really?"

"We were at a restaurant when the waiter brings me my dish and there is a huge hair sticking out of it and when I pointed it out, the waiter just pulled it out and left...Really?"

Get past my great examples to get my point. What once was catchy is now becoming an annoying and overused word. Why are we abusing the poor word, "really?" It's only served us well, even if we abuse it and use it over and over whether in a multiple streamed sequence, ie., "That was really really really realllllly good!" Which I recognize I take part in that abuse sometime, but that seems to only be the case when I'm so absorbed in how "really" something was to think of any better vocabulary.

When we place it at the end of a sentence 1-4 times during a conversation, it becomes a little wearing to continue that conversation because of the fear of the poor word, "really" becoming sick and dying off to the dooms of "Not!" I'm seeing it everywhere, in literature, on tv, of course in conversations, and it's losing all the catchy-ness that "Got Milk" once had and is on the verge of becoming an irritable ending instead of a friendly exclamation.

Lets just give it a break and use it sparingly so that it doesn't fall fate to the ridiculous category where "Not!" now lives. It may be too late, but it may not. Lets join creative forces and come up with something less abused or maybe I should just expand my vocabulary like my husband who never seems to resort to trendy statements since he's witty enough to come up with his own appropriate for individual situations.

If I continue to hear it as much as I do, one of these times I may not be able to stifle my thoughts and my conversation with someone who ends their sentence like this, "xyz...Really?" I may slip, "Really?"

(If you google, "Really" with Seth, you can find some Saturday Night Live segments where they totally abuse the abused word, but I didn't post them because in the couple I saw I couldn't find a way to cut it short--and clean:)

Q: Are you on or off board with how lame and expected this word has become?
Q: Do you care?
Q: Do you edit people's language internally with something more palatable?


4 comments:

joolee said...

Ha, I have noticed people using "really", but not a ton...yet. Maybe it's a geographic thing that spreads from one coast to the other (or originates in California). :) "Really" doesn't bother me right now, but maybe that's because I'm with the Young Women all the time and the way THEY talk drives me crazy!

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parttimer said...

Being a teacher, I have to say "really" is better than constant swearing, but its true, when people say the same thing over and over (one saying in our school is whatever your friend says, you reply "that's what she said") it is truly irritating. Or the ever present "your mom" or "yo mama" reply.

Autumn said...

Really? I couldn't resist. (What's up w all the spam?!!!) Yeah its annoying but what annoys me more..."I know, right?" AHHHHHHHHHHH. I hate it. But your post-that I loved.